UPDATE – bugsy was consigned to the San Antonio Ranch Gelding Stakes and Sale in February 2010. He performed fantastically and was purchased by the Grayson’s for $10,000.
Don’t Worry About It.
Forget About It.
We all do stupid things. If you’re thinking that you don’t, you’re due. And it will probably happen before you go to bed tonight.
Anyway, We all do it. What’s important is what you do afterward. Now, if your stupid thing is forgetting to put the lid on your pink lemonade from DQ (they’re awesome by the way) and you sling it all over the truck when some teeny-bopper whips their soon-to-be-destroyed-if-they-keep-texting-while-they’re-driving-new-car, then it’s usually not that big of a deal. Some of us hot-heads and worry warts may feel differently, but all I can tell you is life’s too short. You’re the only one mad. How does that make you feel? More mad? 😉 That’s the point. You have a choice. You don’t have to be mad.
So on to the real deal. Your mess up may be bigger than that. You may have purposely decided to delay marketing a particular horse for one reason or another. And the next thing you know, you’re underneath a $6,000+ property tax situation that has a serious effect on real life. (you know, hypothetically 😉 ) This problem could be huge for some, and might not even make some blink when they consider their problems. (infidelity, fiscal irresponsibility, etc., etc.)
How do you handle that if you’re the one who screwed up? How do you handle it if you’re the spouse of the person who screwed up? Or the son, daughter, mother or father?
It’s all the same. We should all try to exist in the current moment. Where do you exist? Truly Exist?
In a war that was fought decades ago? In a business dealing that happened years ago? In an argument that you don’t even remember that well? Where? Where do you exist?
If you don’t know, find out. Now.
This shapes your reaction to everything. As soon as you know where you exist, you’ll understand your reactions so clearly as well. But I can’t answer it for you. And neither can your spouse, or anyone else. If it doesn’t come to you immediately, bow your head. Ask Our Lord. Seriously, He’ll let you know right quick.
So, about that reaction – how can you handle it? With humility and dignity. It doesn’t matter which side you’re on. That’s how you handle it. Regardless of how bad you screwed up, somebody somewhere has screwed up worse than you. And no matter how small of a screw up you may think it is, somebody somewhere could make your little mess look like Katrina. So be humble. Be apologetic. But don’t continue to EXIST in that screwup. It’s a poison. Move on.
And if you’re the one who got screwed, same thing. Be aware, but be humble, you’re not perfect. And do not continue to EXIST within that situation. Move on.
Does “It’s OK” mean no one cares? Hell no it doesn’t. The real world doesn’t forget. But that’s not the point. The point is that the past is poison. Good pasts can paralize you into not progressing. You think you’ve already made it. Bad pasts can do the same thing. They can create a “Why should I even try?” situation.
Guess what. Tomorrow is the same way. Poison. Is that a little drastic? Nope. If you cared about losing one pound today, or making one dollar today, what would happen? Success. But we’re not doing that. We want to make a million… Eventually. What the heck kind of timeline is that?
So then, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today has enough trouble of its own.
Good, bad, happy or sad – Live for the people in your life right now. The opportunities in your life right now. The love in your life right now. Let the rest go. You ask Our Lord and He’ll tell you what to do next. And don’t be surprised when you end up exactly where you wanted to be. In shorter time. And after having more fun. 😉
Here’s a little aside. There’s a whole theory behind it as well, but this post is getting a little longer than expected. Think about grandparents. Why do they love those grandchildren SO much?
It’s a clean slate.
Wipe your slate clean today and start over. What if everybody was your grandchild? You’d be broke 😉 , but you’d be happy.
Here are several other posts on forgiveness and stress free living.